So Dramatic…

I had all four wisdom teeth pulled on Wednesday, and now, I have no wisdom, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I can’t smile, life as I knew it has ended, and I’m pretty sure my oral surgeon is laughing at me.

Connectivity-the universe, people, and whatnot

Last Sunday I was invited by a lovely Sista  to an awesome event at a nearby park that included gardening, fellowship, then yoga. The kids played on the playground in between running down the aisles of the lush, somewhat overgrown community garden, while we pulled weeds, turned soil, harvested, and chatted. All of the sistas were naturalistas and the brothas were health conscious kings with tattoos and calm demeanor. Conversations ranged from what to do with the squash and eggplant we’d just picked to gentrification of the community, from great parks in our area to world travel. After gardening,  we dusted off and found a wide grassy space. Trading our shovels and dirt for yoga mats and incense, we setup in a circle and joined hands. The yoga instructor who’d been invited by the event coordinator was a mahogany skinned, toned sista with a mohawk and brilliant billion dollar smile. Yoga was the best part of the gathering!!!

Let me tell ya, I’m no real “yogi” per se, but I enjoy meditation…..and yoga…especially outside. This was better than the usual clean studio with hardwood floors and mirrors . There was light traffic passing by, other families in the park, shade from the trees, a breeze from mother nature, and warmth from the sun…all in perfect portions to provide a harmonious balance of real world and spirit. Such a positive energy flowed through the circle. Afterwards, we all felt so connected that we left wanting more of each other and made plans to do this on a bi-weekly basis, at the least.

It was nice to disconnect from the hustle bustle and connect with nature and other people. I think we left wanting more because this is what we crave as humans. Especially those of us who vibrate higher. I found my people! 🙂

Finding my Zen in the midst of crazy

I swear it seems that over the last few weeks, everyone has completely went nuts. We are constantly bombarded with an overwhelming amount of emotionally charged imagery and rhetoric. As it stands, we are engaged in a war on terror abroad, a race war here in the US, a war with police, the government is about to declare martial law, the NWO is in play, and at any moment our lives can become a living reflection of the Hunger Games (fortunately like Katniss, I am an excellent archer, however I’d be dead bc I wouldn’t harm a fly). This is an election year and the inauguration of a new president will introduce a new annual custom known as “the purge” and many of us will  not survive. The conspiracy theorists are literally salivating at the very notion of their claims finally becoming validated. Their moment of “I told you so!!” is a fingertip touch away. Bottom line, it’s a jungle out there and jungles are scary, not peaceful.at least for most humans anyway.

I have several opinions and plenty to say about what’s going on, just as everyone else. But for right now, my desire goes beyond just wanting to let it all out. I want an escape from the sensory overload. I was asked by a few friends how I was sleeping. Honestly, like a baby. How? According to http://www.operationmeditation.com, there are 5 main tips to finding your peace. I have applied these tips to my life, and even more so recently.

  1. living in the right now: this for me includes letting go of the past as well as welcoming the future without fear of what it contains. in addition, it is also being flexible, enjoying the impromptu playdates and games of tag with my children at the park. If nothing else, a crazy world makes you stop and appreciate the simplicity of enjoying those moments as they happen, rather than checking your watch in order to stay on schedule.
  2. acceptance: of who you are, your own abilities (or lack thereof), and once again, the craziness of the world. The serenity prayer comes to mind. we know that as much as we’d like to rid the world of evil, there are just some things we cannot change. There is great liberation in simply letting go. Trust me.
  3. forgiveness: to me this coincides with #1 and 2. Forgiveness is a like a balm for thehealing-yoga-picture soul as it cleanses you of negative energy. Holding onto past hurts and a grudge will weigh you down like a grocery bag full of rocks, the heavy, boulderesque kind. it ain’t fun to carry, it’s useless, and it’s nonprogressive.
  4. MEDITATION!!!! This is one of my favorite things to do. in our world of sensory overload and over-stimulation, if you’re like me, your brain is working over time overprocessing and over analyzing. my wheels are constantly turning, pondering the why’s, I find myself thinking about thinking and it gets pretty loud in there (I swear I’m not really crazy). meditation allows me to quiet those intrusions of peace, process them calmly, find the peace within and gain clarity of thought. All of the above usually happen once I’ve meditated. My meditation time is usually accompanied by crystals, tea, and sage or incense. (I’ll post about this later)
  5. journaling: This tip is awesome! I like writing but for those of us those that don’t, consider it not writing per se, but talking to yourself in page form. I started years ago when I was in high school as just a place to tell my secrets and vent, but eventually it became not only an escape for self-expression, but also documentation of my progress (if any). The fortunate thing about journaling is that the pages are unbiased and they accept your truth without judgement.
  6. this is my bonus: UNPLUG! As I mentioned before…sensory overload. give yourself a break. Logoff. Disconnect. Simply shut it all down. I go long periods without turning on a single tv. I can go even longer without social media (which I keep to a minimum anyway). I understand the need to remain informed, but when you find yourself drained yet still can’t pull away, waiting for more info that isn’t coming (and really doesn’t make a difference in your here and now), it’s time to shut…it…down. (i’ll post about the joys of unplugging in another post)

I hope this helps someone as it has helped me. Don’t let the outside world rob you of your inner peace and positive energy. Take it back!

Peace & blessings

 

5 Tips to Finding Peace retrieved from http://operationmeditation.com/discover/5-tips-to-finding-peace-within-yourself/

Raising Queens

tumblr_lgxkg060xw1qgfbgio1_250As a mother of 3 daughters I am often baffled by the juxtaposition of dreading their development into young women all while preparing them for it. I was raised in the Christian church, morality and virtue the cornerstones of my childhood. As an adult, I’ve deviated from religious doctrine and found a new sense of purpose and spirituality. In it I am comfortable and liberated. However, those principles that were instilled in the young women of my church still have value to me-being kind to others, showing compassion and generosity, and probably what was considered the most important rule-no sex before marriage. I’ll be the first to admit that I took a swan dive off the cliff of virtue, leaving my virginity behind and relished the entire freefall into the abyss of pleasure below. Honestly, I have no regrets and I look fondly upon those memories as they were learning experiences. BUT….I would go ham and bananas if my girls were to EVER decide to engage in drinking, driving, sexing, sinning, or any of the aboving. In my hypocrisy, I cringe at the thought of them becoming sexually awakened and morally corrupt.

Recently I had a conversation with a young woman who could be described as promiscuous. Her behavior over the years has been self-destructive and littered with poor choices that led to becoming pregnant and alone. Like me, she was raised in the christian church with with good parents, from a good family who taught her morals and values. One would think, or at least I would, that those lessons would be enough to deter a young woman from that lifestyle. But I know for a fact it does not. Which leads me to my question….how do you prevent your children from doing things that are deemed detrimental? How do you keep them from making the same mistakes as mom/dad?

I’ve toyed with this answer and even polled other moms. The answers given ranged from “beat their ass”, to “put the fear of god in them”, “always keep the lines of communication  open”, and “prayer”. Beating one’s ass has not proven an effective form of discipline (I’ll address this topic in a future post). The fear of god, well the fire and brimstone talk never scared me. Young people are smarter now a days, and fear less than I did in my time. And while I agree with keeping the lines of communication open, I’m looking for more concrete measures to improve conditioning. Prayer, go for it, but I’ve seen many a mother praying, bible constantly in tow, and 3 out of 4 daughters all pregnant by 18. What I’ve come to realize is that it is a mindset, and one that is lacking of self-value, self-preservation, and self-awareness.

When raising a daughter, we must approach it as we aren’t just raising women, but Queens. Queens are regal, intelligent, and poised…further they are not common, but are extraordinary, valuable, and ultimately unattainable. A Queen would not allow herself to be someone’s “side chick” or any type of chick, but demands respect, and realizes that everyone and everything is not worth her time. This is determined at her own discretion and she is unapologetic. She knows that her success and well-being are invaluable and lying with dogs will not only get her fleas, but doesn’t further her objective. Which is to be the best she can be. I am teaching my girls to guard their gifts and their bodies because they are more precious than rubies and all the diamonds in the world. I am teaching them to value intelligence and growth. I am teaching them inner beauty, humility, compassion, and service are more important than outward appearances and being the “baddest b!*@%”. And it is ok to be on a selfish mission while on the road to bettering yourself and attaining academic success as long as you give back.  No one or nothing should ever get in the way of that. I am teaching my girls that they are royalty and they should carry themselves as such. And I pray that it works. Otherwise, beating an ass returns to the table of options. Just kidding 😉